Licensed Therapist Jonathan Decker examines psychology, relationships, family dynamics and more in this deep dive into Pixar's masterpiece: Inside Out.
Jonathan shares his insights from a decade of professional marriage and family therapy to examine the themes and ideas presented in Inside Out, to see what the filmmakers got right, and horribly ruined (not much, really.) Alan says some things too. His insights are of middling quality.
Also, Alan cries.
Like, a lot.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
Produced by: Jonathan Decker, Megan Seawright & Alan Seawright
Edited by: Alan Seawright
Director of Photography: Bradley Olsen
I love how they present male sensitivity
This scene with Bing Bong always makes me cry.
As a kid who struggles really hard with depression and emotions because of my whole emotional neglect issues from my parents, inside out is my favorite movie because it helps me to feel more human and it dosn't romanticize depression and stuff, it's just so whole hearted and beautiful and it makes me really happy to know that we are normalizing our emotions and teaching young kids that it's okay to feel your emotions bc I was never taught that
25:35 BREAKING DOWN SOCIETAL MASCULINITY!
*Cri cri* Ow pain
ya know most therapist have hard past that motivate them to be therapist but I'm surprised that they don't become the person who needs therapy
Absolutely LOVED this video. As an amateur therapist I think this movie is a great tool to use in therapy. I've watched it like 5 times and I have to watch it with a paper and a pen because every time I see something new. I've taken good notes from this video. THANK YOU SO MUCH
The momentous ease lily pump because need quickly excite during a chemical yak. sneaky, lyrical french
"handsome large-ish man, not lacking in masculinity"
Will you do this for the Prince of Egypt
my dog has a heart condition and cancer and this shit had me do the ugly cry
Where is therapist reacts to soul
coming very soon!
the therapist is fucking hilarious
This is such a beautiful video, thank you🤍
Who's chopping onions in here? 😭
"But it's ok that it's not ok". I'm a therapist myself, and THAT sentence gave me goosebumps and brought me close to tears. I guess it moves some deep stuff in me. That sentence is one of the most important lessons people have to learn... sometimes it's ok not to be ok... Beautiful video u guys. Thank u
I JUST PUT MAKEUP ON AND ITS RUINED
"Sadness is the price that we pay for love." And then video cuts to Alan as I get extra feels because Darth Vader is in the background. Damn.
Me: I probably won’t watch all 30 minutes of video, that seems like a long time. Me 30 minutes later: oh my, oh wow, oh my. This. hit. deep. *Proceeds to ugly cry*
Charlie Swan walked so this dad could run
Theater full of kids AND grown adults.... Every adult was sniffling at Bing Bong's death
I don't even like this movie but goddamn the take me to the moon seen always makes me cry
When you feel depressed and the console freezes up, in my experience the best thing to do is simply be present. Presence changes everything, for me at least. Trying to force feeling shatters me into pieces.
Something I only noticed watching this, was the framing of Family Island through the broken window as Sadness steps forward to save Riley and the last personality Island standing. Such a beautiful movie.
Not a dry eye in the audience. 😭🥲
I was fine through the entire video until Jonathan says this at 20:29
I was channel surfing on my tv recently and I found that Inside Out was about to come on. So now I've come back to watch this video.
Thanks so much for sharing these insights
This movie is low key for parents
I would love to see this guy break down Steven universe the movie because one of the big problems that Steven has in that movie is that he constantly wants his happily ever afterback and it prevents him from seeing the fact that there is no such thing as happily ever after. and he doesn't learn that until the end of the movie where he says "There's no such thing as happily ever after. I'll always have more to do."
@Cinema Therapy Oh wow really? Holy cow... I hope you also notices the mental issues with the villain of that movie because my cousin was able to pick up that she displays characteristics of someone with borderline personality disorder
Sometime this year...
This is excellent. Thank you.
Alan: "ok, thank you for coming Jonathan. now-" Therapist Jonathan: "It will be 2,000$ today" Alan: "........haha, you're jok-" Therapist Jonathan: "2,000$"
This was so beautiful. Could you please review Mega Mind. It blows my mind every time I watch it. It would be lovely to see your perspective on that
@Cinema Therapy Thank you!!! Just subscribed to the channel. Can't wait!
Great suggestion! We'll definitely add it to our list for future episodes!
Y’all dare me to subscribe? Ok if you say so..
My vivid nightmares are all about zombies. I am comfortably watching zombie films, but I don't know why it is like that.
good video!
the only men I would trust
This movie makes me ugly cry every. single. time.
lol bing-bong got snapped
I honestly didn’t think that I could cry harder at this movie than I usually do, but I was wrong. Me and the crew were ugly crying.
Madge: I don't know why I keep shouting at them. The Doctor: Because every time you see them happy you remember how sad they're going to be. And it breaks your heart. Because what's the point in them being happy now if they're going to be sad later. The answer is, of course, because they are going to be sad later.
I cried to the point of a bleeding nose... oh Pixar! Professional heart-breakers...
So wholesome
I just wanted to thank you guys for this video. I’ve been living for a long time like joy was in my head trying her best to keep sadness out of the picture. This video has truly helped me to begin the journey towards finally mourning my past and moving on and healing. Thank you
That was beautiful, thank you so much. I am crying now too! I am watching inside out again with my family tonight. Thank you.
This is excellent, and if I need a therapist I’m comin for this guy
Hi. New subscriber.. Not sure how I feel about the Dr. Jonathon having already seen the films 🤔🤔 I want a real reaction lol
2nd time watching this. More will come.
Embrace sadness everyone. It's ok to grieve.
Dammit. Every time BingBong dies my eyes absolutely FILL with tears 😭
Didn't realize I needed a tissue today for folding my laundry. Lots of feels.
Have you done Steven Universe?
Oh god why did I watch this knowing it would make me cry xD
I want to see these guys do a video on 'Frozen'; where they talk about "Elsa" suffering from anxiety and depression, and then one on 'Soul' that talks about "22" suffering from an inferior complex.
Thank you. Just.... thank you
I'm about 13:08 and they start talkin bout dreams get me all messed up. Like i have messed up nightmares, last one i had was getting lost in a shopping centre with someone i dunno, and i had to go forth and back between certain areas, with shops that didn't made sense or selling only one product. Another nightmare i once had was where i fell downstairs but the stairs stopped earlier than the floor, creating a gap that i couldn't climb back up. A few dreams about getting lost in my elementary school building except it had a weird staircase and such, being eaten by a massive spider, and so on. One dream where i had to run away, cuz i had a book which two guys on a bike each wanted, they followed me around in my home town area, pushed me and when they got the book i woke up. It was really weird.
thanks for your idea
“It’s okay that’s it’s not okay” I needed to hear that from somebody
18:46 This is so true... I have a friend who had eating problems and our other friends just said ´get over it´. One of them who also had mental health issuses said ´I got over it on my own. So just get over it.´ And I said something like ´She is not you.´ And then they replied ´she is just exploiting? you.´ I was the only one who talked to her (the friend with the eating problems) that day. Later on they all talked again... but unlike others (even her parents) I never forced her to eat. At lunch I convinced her to eat a bit of her bread. Just a bit. Because I know that she really tried but just couldn´t. We were 15 or 16 at that time. And some day her stepmother said to me how much I really help my friend... because I, without knowing it, I really helped her and didn´t just said ´get over it.´
I’m not sure how to go about this one but I’ve seen this movie before I love it I identify with it because I have borderline personality disorder bipolar to PTSD generalized anxiety disorder major depressive disorder and I also have dissociative identity disorder and there is a possibility that I may have autism it is not easy dealing with emotions which I have always pushed them back and ignore them I’ve always felt fear and I’ve always pushed back to the point where I had for a while in my childhood into my life never felt any emotions because I’ve never wanted to show them to anyone because the way things go for me everything comes out the wrong way I say the wrong things I do the wrong things and things are too complicated for me don’t like crowds can’t stand going in transportation by myself because I get overwhelmed right lights loud noise and other things really get me fear well I’ve had so many things happened to me that scared me that I can’t even begin to start with any of it so my life has been exactly like this movie totally crashing and I prefer following routines it makes me feel more comfortable more safe when I have routines that I can follow and I love animals and animals love me as well sincerely mentally and emotionally confused host of my system Danielle PS and usually overwhelmed and drained
actually, I Believe it wasn't depression riley was feeling, Depressive is extreme sadness to the point where it might feel like you don't feel anything. This was something much worst, I feel what she was feeling was apathy and only sadness could make her feel anything.
Used this a LOT with the kiddo (she was 3). Whenever she was having a meltdown, we would ask what color it was. It really helped us navigate the feelings. (And I preemptively ugly-cried over this back then, I ugly cry over it now with all the yellow-blue memories.)
I would point out that Bing Bong is one of the greatest characters I have ever seen on cinema. He does not only sacrifices himself for the girl he loves: in doing so, he knows she will forever forget him. His death is one of the saddest and bravest things ever. Mostly because he's half dolphin and half cat and he cries candies
I like how this movie also represents how our emotions often get more complex as we grow up.
I like how the movie has absolutely no villains, only flawed characters. Joy is just doing what she thinks is best. The others are ignoring them because they're just doing their jobs. The abstract thought machine was only activated because the workers thought that it was empty. The scary clown just wants to have fun. Riley's father sends her to her room because he thinks he's disciplining her. Riley doesn't hate her parents but only does these things because she thinks it will make her happy. Even the thoughts of the clown Riley's fear was originally based on are revealed at the end of the movie. The only characters in the entire movie who act maliciously are those who reminded Riley of the Triple Dent Gum commercial.
This movie literally changed my parenting style/behavior...
Genuine reactions and emotions and very informative guys loved it
I already watched this movie, why am I crying now??
You say that joy is not possible without sadness. However, that should also mean that sadness is not possible without joy. According to the movie, if joy had failed to leave the pit she would have disappeared with Bing Bong and never returned to the headquarters. Sadness might have eventually found her way back but Riley could have never become happy again. Is this possible? Is it possible for someone to just lose the ability to feel a certain emotion forever? If so, is there a name for this phenomenon?
This gives me a whole new appreciation of inside out
Congratulations Pixars! You managed to make grown men cry, on camera! I hope ur all happy!
"Soul" That's all.
It's SUCH a good film. If I get to have kids in the future, this will be playing on repeat. I totally needed this film when I was a kid.
"Don't make decisions when you're angry. Don't make promises when you're happy." The movie starts with the question of what the purpose of sadness is. I heard that a previous version of the movie had Joy making Riley act childish all the time. The final version of the movie briefly answers the question by saying that "Sadness brings us together.". However, when it comes to sadness's moment to shine, it results in a memory that is classified as being both sad and happy at the same time, which kinda defeats the point. You're saying happiness isn't the goal. Utilitarists would disagree with you. Yes, sadness does have its uses, but it still all just amounts to happiness. What is your opinion about that?
I think it's important to make a distinction between being 'happy in the moment', and being 'happy in life', even from a utilitatian perspective. While experiencing sadness doesn't make you happy in the moment, it can contribute to being happier in life. As they said in the video, you can't be happy without also experiencing sadness. In the long term having excessive happiness without sadness diminishes the 'happiness in life' you experience. Being sad sometimes makes you appreciate the happy moments and memories more. As such, being happy (in life) can still be considered the goal of life. Always being happy (in the moment) just isn't the way to achieve that.
2:35 "If I went to a neuroscience restaurant, like, I'd be comfortable ordering food." What does that even mean?
"when children start to have abstract thoughts it's a sign that they are no longer children"- well according to this i stopped being a child when i was five or six years old because that was when i started to think of what the universe was made of and how - and consecutively learned about the big bang theory for the first time.
Inside Out is one of the only movies that really makes me FEEL something. And it scares me, so I subconsciously suppress it.
18:28 - 19:07 This whole section low key made me cry almost as much as Bing bong's death. My anxiety has been getting worse and worse lately and my mother just tells me to tell the little voice in my head to go away but it really is like you've broken your control panel and you know you shouldn't feel like that
"My wife makes fun of me constantly" "Yeah mine too" Even if family do not have bad intentions, sometimes when they made fun of you when yo cry as a man this really discourages you, to cry and show emotions on public, to even some friends or family for fear that they also make fun of you too.
It's the middle of the night. ALworld randomly suggests I watch your The Martian reaction. I love it. 2 hours later i'm crying like a baby and having a mini therapy session watching inside out with you. Good lord what a channel.
I had a psychiatrist that loved this movie, she even had small toys of sadness in her consulting room. I guess that was a reminder of her that sadness was good to feel sometimes
Can y'all watch Grave of the Fireflies (subbed not dubbed)? I would LOVE to hear y'all's commentary on that movie.
I'd love to know where that line is, between parenting, and OVER parenting. Does Cinema Therapy provide advice on that?
I really think Inside Out deserves more praise as a film, when I watched it some years ago I found it very beautiful. And this video is just as good! Very educational and comforting. Thank you for this kind of content!
this movie made me cry. i refuse to watch it again.
when he said every happy memory of my mom is covered in blue I lost it
Do Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse plzzzzz! such an amazing coming of age and finding your identity story
Thanks so much for this. Your channel is helping me a lot during my current psychological and psychiatric therapy. You are doing a great job
There is a type of love that is only experienced through sadness, there is a type of joy that is only experienced through grief
I LOVE these videos!!! Can you two please discuss overcoming trauma and fear in Finding Nemo? I have been suffering from scelerophobia and I believe many people may be suffering from the same after experiencing 2020. Your videos help the layperson see therapeutic messages in easily accessible media, when the financial burden of going to therapy is not an option. Thank you for creating such amazing content to help people! You two rock! ❤️
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I never liked this movie, it bored me. But now after seeing you guys' appreciation for it and explaining it all to me, I've grown to appreciate it myself more too.
Please please please do the incredibles!! I would love to have the plane scene broken down and the obsessive relationship syndrome has with Mr. Incredible!!! PLEASE 🥺🙏
It's crazy, because I feel this video so so so much. I have clinic depression, I take an antidrepressive everyday and the amount of times I heard the "you just gotta try" made me believe that's all that i'm not doing. I was really against the medication for a very long time. I think part of me still is, because I'm like "you don't have a reason to be like this, you just gotta stop" and anyway, I started the tratment a little over a year ago and I just really realised I needed it when I had to change my dose to one more pill a day. If it was just me being lazy or not trying, I would not have 2 medical professionals trying to help me with medication, you know? And this metafor about depression being that the control is broken is perfect. I would like to add a bit to it to others that may be dealing with some of the dilemas I still deal with sometimes. Clinical depression is like staying for a very long time without control. Is about not even sadness being capable of bringing it back. I remember thinking is was like having no skin, so everything was just hurting so much I could not deal with it. And the medication is about having a temporary control. It helps you to have the controls back until you can keep going without them. Does that makes sense? Sorry if it doesn't. I loved the video. Most of my childhood memories are blue know, even tho they were all yellow some time ago. I had not thought about it like this and it hurts like crazy, but also kind of makes me understand them better? Anyway, congrats on the video, it's trully awesome. About the nightmares, I think they come up when we are trying to deal with things as well, because when we are still processing I feel that they get a bit worst then when I'm just in denial. It needs to get real bad before it starts to get better, right? Thank you so so so much and I hope you keep with the good work!
This had me crying
Goddamn! Five minutes into this video and I already hit subscribe, this is awesome on so many levels! Kudos to you for keeping it simple to understand yet tremendously profound, it's very interesting for people dealing with mental health and our understanding of the mind. Keep up the good work!
min 13:00 i give their marriage ten years
Prophesy already failed, we've been married eleven.
Therapist way overanalyzes/ruins inside out
Hundreds of thousands disagree with random commenter.
I'd be so interested to see a disordered version of Inside Out, like someone with DID or BPD or any such disorder, how that would affect the happenings of the movie and the "Inner" world and the emotions. Maybe something not necessarily for kids, but teens/young adults with harsher realities, like s*lf harm, dr*g ab*se and things like that. It would be so incredibly interesting.
"To never feel sadness is to never be loved." Whoa, that just really hit me in the face of 🤯